Sexually Liberated Or Simply Obligated?

Think you’re liberated? Think again! Sex may no longer be taboo but has sexual freedom altered our basic attitudes and expectations? Dating & friendship website Makefriendsonline.com asked their members if they ever slept with their partners out of a sense of obligation rather than desire.

A whopping 61% admitted yes, they regularly endure obligation sex - and before you assume those were the women, that figure includes over 58% of men!

So what’s going on? Jane from Essex seemed to sum up most peoples feelings when she said 'sometimes it's just easier to do it than explain why not' whilst James from Wirral added 'saying no might hurt their feelings'.

Andy from Glasgow felt 'it's one of the services you’ve agreed to provide' and Erin from Portsmouth concurred stating 'you might not feel like it but it's your 'job' to keep them satisfied'.

The survey, which polled over 20,000 members, also found:

- 92% of high earners regularly make love out of obligation rather than desire. This exceedingly high figure is at odds with all other income brackets which polled the 60% average.

- Bexley is the town most eager to please with 83% of residents indulging in obligation sex.

- The better educated a person is the more likely they are to agree to undesired sex.

- Obligation is least effective in Wolverhampton where 66% of people will say no if they're not in the mood.

- Redheads will sleep with someone out of obligation more than any other hair colour.

- The starsign most likely to make love purely to keep the other person happy is Virgo.

These figures also suggest there are many occasions when both partners are making love out of a misguided sense of obligation – maybe a little communication would save them both the trouble! Most worrying of all however is the implication that the majority of love making takes place when at least one partner would rather be doing something else.

Sexual Liberation may have given us the freedom to say yes but it would seem we’re still lacking the freedom to say “No”.