Are you ready to find love?
Working as a relationship coach, Michelle Zelli sees many people who are single and desperately searching for love in their life.
Michelle says that by continuing with the same strategies and thought patterns, behaving the same way over and over, as they grit their teeth and continue the search, singles are becoming more cynical, down-hearted and desperate.
If what you have been thinking and doing hasn’t worked, isn’t it time to think again and make some changes?
Michelle explains, “The changes start with our thoughts. What do you think of yourself? How good a partner do you believe you are? How easy is it to love you? Yes, we are starting with the thoughts about you first!
“You cannot have a loving relationship with anyone unless you want yourself. If you fail to respect yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself - why would anyone else?”
Michelle’s message is simple, “you have to like and enjoy being around yourself. If you don’t enjoy your own company, how can you expect anyone else to? If you fail to respect yourself – why would anyone else?”
If you are not too keen on your own company you might find yourself sitting in front of the TV with a good bottle of wine rather more appealing than getting out there and making an effort to interact with the world.
You can tell yourself it will all change once Summer arrives, or once you have a new job, lost some weight, the list is endless! Whatever your ‘reason’ for hibernation think again, it’s time to get back to the big bright world that is waiting for you.
“Take time everyday to focus on your positive points, what you can do very well, what you like about yourself, stay away from thinking about what you don’t have or can’t do – this will only serve to keep your self esteem low and your relationships meagre” explains Michelle.
“When self esteem is low we will settle for less than we deserve. ‘He doesn’t have to call me when he says he will, he is very busy’ - you are actively believing you don’t deserve a partner who is reliable. If you allow this, there will be plenty more such behaviours around the corner to confirm my point – and another disappointing relationship.
“Do you believe you need a relationship? When we put need before want we are automatically putting ourselves on the back foot. Coming from a place of need leaves us vulnerable to accepting almost anything in order to fulfil that need. We are creating a state for ourselves that makes any form of rejection unbearable and we will often do just about anything to prevent that feeling and prove we are wanted - the cost can be high, as you might have found from your previous encounters.
“Coming across as needy will turn off the good, balanced and happy people. Sure, it will attract control freaks, depressives, those who get off on messing with your mind and your emotions.”
Demonstrating confidence, high self esteem, having fun and enjoying life will ensure you attract like minded people who treat you well and take good care of themselves.
“Start looking at what you are good at, begin to accept and love every part of you – you are all you have and be proud of your imperfections – they are part of a great package. Learn to laugh with yourself, focus on others rather than obsessing about what is wrong in your life.
“You know your current strategy is not working. The results are there for you to see. If you are truly ready to attract the right person into your life, it really does start with you. Are you ready to make those changes?” says Michelle.
For immediate changes and fast results, Michelle offers a package of five sessions covering:
1. Releasing the old, unwanted baggage that’s holding you back
2. What I truly want Vs need – restoring personal power
3. Self image, belief, esteem & confidence
4. Feeling good and enjoying life to the full
5. Dating and mating – from a great place to get great results!
Check out the testimonials on Michelle’s website to see how others have benefited from making these changes.
Michelle concludes, “Life is too short to keep making the same mistakes and there is a simple key to having what you really want.”
For more information, visit: michellezelli.com
